Friday, August 24, 2007

I've Got Your Back

It has nearly been a year since Allah blessed me with a beautiful daughter. Over the years there are many things I have learnt and understood just by being with her and spending time with her.

After becoming a parent I can understand why Allah has commanded us to be good towards our parents and why we are required to show and treat them with utmost respect. Our parents love and cater for us in a manner which we can only imagine; for even our love for our children can not compare the care and attention shown to us in our childhood by them.

It was just a few days back that I was with my daughter when she decided to scurry over to the bedside table near the bed. Despite her intention of reaching her goal as quickly as possible it was obvious that she was completely conscious and aware of her safety; her tiny fingers strained as she help onto the bed sheet whilst she used the bed for support. She made her way, step by step, to get her hands on her water bottle.

Children, with all their innocence are still aware, to some extent, of the dangers around them; they make an effort to keep safe and hold on tight whenever they feel unsafe or threatened. This I noticed from all the small things that she would do day-to-day.

When she did finally reach the water bottle she came to a slight dilemma, one one side she needed both her hands to be able to lift the bottle and drink from it and on the other hand she needed her security and safety by being able to grip the bed-sheet or nearby bedside table. However, she had to make her choice, it was one or the other.

I watched her with complete alertness as she balanced on one spot, ready to grab hold of her in case she lost her composure. A few moments later, I could not resist but give her some support to ease her tension and concentration. I placed my hand on her back and made her feel supported.

After a short pause she took complete advantage of the support and placed all her weight on my hand, completely relaxed and assured that she was safe and secure.


A child is classed as a dependent; an individual who requires the full support and aid of another in order to survive. Children look towards their nourisher for security and assurance; a moment's separation brings tears to their eyes.

When a parent supports his child, that child becomes totally submissive to them, they let themselves loose and place their entire confidence and safety in the hands of those who are responsible for their upbringing.

Should we not take heed from a child and show the same trust (Tawakkul) in Allah? Should we not be prepared to let ourself go for his sake? Allah states in Surah al-Fatiha:

الحمد لله رب العالمين

"All praise be to Allah the nourisher of the worlds"

[al-Fatiha - 01:01]

In this verse Allah uses the term رب for Himself which means He who up-brings, caters and provides for everyone.

The trust of a child can be seen when you pick them up and throw them in the air, a smile is seen or a giggle is heard; the simple reason being is that they know... if a few seconds they will be in the arms of their beloved, safe and happy.

May Allah give us the strength and firm belief to place our trust in Him in a manner which it should be. May we muster the courage to hand our problems over to Him with full confidence of them being solved. May He give us the realisation that no matter how high the tides of sorrow and grief toss us in this world, with our trust in Him, it shall be in His mercy and arms that we land. Aameen.


Ahmed said...

Jazakallah for this eye opening you say a great example to take heed from. Ameen to the duas.


Anonymous said...

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu,


Jazakallah for another enlightening post. May Allah Ta'aala grant us all the tawfeeq to act upon what you have written. Ameen.

Duas humbly requested.

Wassalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu

Zain said...

As Salaamu Alaykum,

Brother Ahmed

Jazakallah for the comment. May Allah give us the understanding and guide us. Aameen.

Sister xmuslimahx

Jazakallah for the comments and Aameen to the Du'as.

Du'as also requested.


Sketched Soul said...

As-salaamu'alaykum wa Rahmatu Llahi wa Barakatuhu,

Masha'Allah.. what a wonderful reflection on your part. I will probably always be reminded of this post everytime I'm around children, insha'Allah.


Ameen! to you beautiful dua'.

Wa'alaykum as-salaam

Zain said...

As Salaamu Alaykum,

Jazakallah for the comments and I pray that, even if it be through my post, that you remember the lesson of this post and through it you remember Allah and His blessings. Aameen.

Du'as Requested.