Thursday, November 23, 2006

Why am I not happy?

Through the journey of life, it is a natural occurrence that something will take place which will be contrary to our desire and wishes. It is at these times we will feel a great sense of unhappiness and displeasure.

We sometimes feel displeasure when our food isn’t ready on time; sometimes when we are late we feel unhappy in regards to this. Furthermore, our discontentment is mixed and contaminated with ingratitude and ungratefulness. We seem to let our annoyance become the reason behind our lack appreciation for everything else that has occurred and is continuing to occur in our life.

At times in life we feel a certain discomfort and frustration towards things that occur in life which we were hoping would emerge and develop in a totally different matter and at that point we tend to forget all the happiness, pleasures and bounties we have in the world and show our lack of appreciation and thanklessness based on that single occurrence.


In life we always tend to forget the favours of Allah during the time when we are displeased with an action of His or something that went against our own desires. In actual fact, we have moulded our heart in such a manner that it only receives pleasure when its wishes, desires and requests are fulfilled.
Yet we tend to ignore and disregard all the favours and bounties that have been given to us by that person, if it was through them we received annoyance; or the fact that there could be something superior to that which we have lost.

There is a saying:

'When something occurs and it is according to your wishes and desire, then that is a good thing… but when something takes place which is against your will and desire then it is even better. For that which is not in accordance with your desire is in accordance to the desire of the Lord'

In simple terms, when something takes place we should always relate its occurrence to Allah; by doing so we will never be displeased, as a believer’s true pleasure is in the pleasure of Allah.

Thus, by doing so, there will not be a circumstance within which a person will not become ungrateful and unappreciative; instead he will ensure that he thanks Allah for all those times where his wishes have been met and accepted despite being only His slave.

May Allah give us all the realisation of His presence and His will and command. May He give us the strength to accept that which He has chosen to occur and understanding to realise that all good lies in His hands and in His power. May He give us wisdom (Hikmah) in that which we know, and a zeal and thirst for knowledge for those matters which we have no knowledge of. Aameen.


forgotten friend said...

Jazakallah for the reminder...I can totally relate to your post..for example when you really want something but cant have it for some reason we tend to start thinking 'why?' instead we shoukd think that we have sacrificed that something to seek the pleasure of Allah...

Shukran Maulana

seekerofwisdom said...


very correct

Zain said...

As Salaamu Alaykum,

Jazakallah for the comments forgotten friend. I believe this is a post we can all relate to and have all experienced. I pray to Allah that He gives us the strength to accept that which He wills and that what He has chosen for us. Aameen.

Please remember me in your Duas.


SoNg In WiNd said...

I realy enjoy reading your posts,and friends posts too..Bless you and u family brother, and all muslims..ameen

Zain said...

As Salaamu Alaykum,

Jazakallah sister for the comments and for passing by. I hope you are in the best of health and Imaan. May Allah bless you and reward you for your efforts and may he shower His mercy upon you and your family. Aameen.

Du'as requested.