Monday, July 25, 2005

A New Start... A deception

Our Beloved Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam has shown us many ways to prosperity and success. He has outlined to us, and shown us, the lifestyle of a Muslim. Yet, the fact remains that Shaytaan, the accursed, has made a vow, "I will take each and everyone into the hellfire" and this is where the battle begins.

On one hand, we have a believer, one who may not seem to be strong, but nevertheless has the flame of Imaan and belief buring inside his heart. And on the other hand we have Shaytaan who has vowed to mislead mankind despite knowing the result and consequence. Who will win the battle? That option and choice lies with every individual, it lies with me and it lies with you...

Have you ever had this thought, this belief and feeling, that I will start being god-fearing once I get married and settle down? Have you ever had the urge to give up something that is forbidden only to have a force telling you that you are still young and there will be time to repent? Has a whisper ever lead you away from Allah giving you false promises that you shall, one day, return on his path?

All these notions, whispers and forces are non other than the deception of Shaytaan.

Why am I mentioning all this? Surely this blog has things only to do with what I endure in my life, the things that occur to me... Well, this is my story...

This weekend I went to a Walimah (I thought avoiding the wedding ceremony would save us all from the Fitnah). In my mind I had a notion, a belief that people do Walimah because our Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam has told us and taught us to do so. Therefore, if we are doing the Walimah we will surely not be slaughtering the commands of our Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam.

To be honest, it was appalling to see each and every Sunnah of our beloved Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam being slaughtered. It was a shame to see people doing the total opposite of what their 'true' desire is...

Every person that gets married hopes and prays for a happy marriage. We even begin this mighty decision by seeking the guidance of Allah through the prayer of Istikhaara. We beg Him to give us a happy married life and to keep our love and marriage strong through all that life throws at us... We ask Him for beautiful pious children... We prayed to Him for 'A New Life' yet how did we begin this 'New Life?'

Yet, have we ever turned around and asked ourselves if we will ever get what we asked for? The day we take vows and become Husband and Wife is the day that we break nearly all of Allah's commands and rules. We forget Allah in such a way that the only pleasure we seek is that of mankind, the only praise we beseech is that of the people.

We begin to believe that what we truly want is for a 'grand' wedding. A wedding where each and every person of the community is invited, where food is at large and no attempt of upholding the laws of Islam is made... We begin to fall into the deception of Shaytaan to see this as our true desire.

Which wedding can be more 'grand' and worthy of praise than that of our Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam and his beloved Companions Alayhimus Salaam?

I don't want to stretch this post to an extent where it will tire people to read on... But the pain that is felt within the heart is so great that the eyes fail to shed tears but the heart cannot stop wailing. The sorrow is indeed because the happiness of Allah is slaughtered, but the shame and sorrow is for those people who asked for something great for their marriage and done something in totally contradicted it when it came to taking the blessings of Allah.


Shaytaan is very weak yet he is very sly and cunning. He will not stop a man from wishing good for himself nor will he stop a believer from begging in front of Allah. Shaytaan's deception is such that he will make you feel that you have done what you needed to do and then he will take you against Allah knowing that your asking was futile when you do not follow His commands.

Has one never felt Shaytaan tell him "do this later, you are still young"?, "You can do all of this once you are married and settled", "there is plenty of time, when you get old, just repent". Shaytaan will never say "No! Don't pray Salaah", "Don't do this act of worship", but he will always aid you in the path of procrastination.

I pray to Allah that He aids us through every step of our life, that He forgives us when we fall into the deception of Shaytaan. I pray to Allah to forgive us all and not to look at our shortcomings and instead look at our sincerity when we spread these hands in front Him to beg Him for His mercy and blessings. Aameen.


mujahidah an nafs said...

Assalamu alaikum,

Jazakallah kahir 4 such a great true Shaytaan is looking 4 any way 2 lead us astray b it the day that we complete half of our deen ie marriage...

Its such a contradiction on one hand ur doing something that is so great as completing half of ur deen, the other ur going against the sunnah and the blessings that come with following it.

I could go on and on...

Jazakallah khair,

take care

Wassalam :)

Zain said...

As Salaamu Alaykum,

Jazakallah for the comments and enlightening us with some words of wisdom from youself.

Such a great act of worship and Shaytaan makes it so incomplete and wasted. May Allah save us all. Aameen.

Please do remember us all in your Duas, I for sure am very needy of them.


mujahidah an nafs said...

Asalamu alaikum,

Ameen Wa sum ameen.

Ur in my duas, i need them just as bad as u! :)


xmuslimahx said...

Assalamu Alaikum,

'An Nikahu Min Sunnati'

Nikah is from the Sunnah of Rasulullah (S.A.W.), yet people do not realise that. People think that Nikah is just for fun, for wordly gain but no it isn't.. it's to increase the Ummah of our beloved Nabi (S.A.W.). Not only that, there are many things but Shaytaan has to come and interfere and divert the people from the Straight Path.

May Allah Ta'ala give us the ability to fight of Shaytaan, Al-Mardood, and May He put into our minds the right intention for our daily acts. Ameen.


Zain said...

As Salaamu Alaykum,

Sister Mujahida an Nafs
Jazakallah for the Duas. May Allah give you all that you ask for and may He reward you as He is capable of doing so. Aameen.

Sister xmuslimahx
Jazakallah for your informative comment. It is indeed a Sunnah of the Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam that holds great weight, one that is classed as half of Imaan. May Allah give us all Hidaayah. Ameen.


xmuslimahx said...


Ameen ajmaeen.


Anonymous said...

as salaamu alaikum

alhumdulillah a very informative post(and one that's close to my heart) that i hope we shall all take lesson from...

Speaking from experience ,i feel that the smaller and less extravagant weddings are far more enjoyable than the lavish big one's...coz in following the commands of Allah the the Noble Sunnah of our Beloved Prophet ( Peace Be Upon Him) is happiness and barakah.

May Allah grant us all to begin our new lives on the right footing so that we can walk blissfully through a happy marriage , straight into Jannah!Ameen

Zain said...

As Salaamu Alaykum,

Jazakallah "Anonymous" for that beautiful comment and sharing your personal experiennce.

Smaller weddings are more peaceful and give less stress to both the parties and after which the family is not drowned in debt which is another grave sin.

Ameen to Duas. May Allah save us all. Ameen.


Sister Aysha said...

I just came across this blog a few days ago so I've been reading the archives.
In regards to his post, I do agree that often people nowadays forget the point of this great worship they are doing in marriage by making the day all about show and extravagence.
One point I wanted to ask/comment on was in regards to how large a gathering to have. Personally I wouldnt want a large gathering at my wedding, but I do believe that all those who invited me to their wedding should be invited to mine. In that way, they have a right on me as they showed kindness to me by their invitation, would it not be important to me to do the same? And in that case, it would have to be a large gathering as I have attended many weddings of friends and family. That does not demand that it be extravagent, but it would then be large.

Please also all remember me in your prayers and that I may Inshallah soon also 'complete half my faith'.